How to deal with hurtful words
Updated: Mar 13, 2019
We’ve all heard the adage of “sticks and stones will break my bones but names will never hurt me.” That couldn’t be any further from the truth. In fact, names and words can cut deeply. Words like “loser”, “freak”, “weakling”, etc. can and often do have lasting impact. For the person who has been demeaned by such words, the result can be depression, anxiety, and a multitude of other conditions. In many ways, it seems unfair that the recipient of such slanderous indignations can be so deeply harmed when others seem so unaffected. Why?
We all differ in our abilities to endure hardships. Within the human condition, there exists an interplay of emotions, thoughts, and actions. This complex constellation is the foundation upon which Cognitive Behavioral Therapy resides. These combinations can often set in place a belief system that is based more on emotion than fact. It is this negative emotion that then goes on to make life so uncomfortable and unhappy for the affected person for extended periods.
A person can get hurtful messages early in life, such as would be the case of child abuse, or recent in life, such as a divorce, a demeaning boss, an unkind teacher, etc. The importance of getting appropriate assistance for the accurate assessment, followed by an individualized plan to correct the issues cannot be overstated. Left unaddressed, a person may go many years, if not a lifetime, feeling down, unworthy, and inferior. However, with the help of a skilled psychologist, one can, in a relatively short period, return to a place of confidence, contentment, hope, and happiness. Call us at Answers for Youth & Families at 479-452-7792 for an appointment OR visit our website at: drbillanswers.com for more information.